How to keep love forever?
Not only is it possible to maintain and preserve love, but it is also necessary even when your partner does not want to contribute. Confirmation of this – many protected families, but it happens that they reunite many years after the divorce. How our feelings develop and what eras and crises they go through just needs to be understood, and it becomes clearer.
In the process of personality building, each person goes through different stages in terms of the quality that deserves love. At the beginning of our journey, it must be the love of children. Authentic and direct, but still not completely unconditional. After all, if a mother chooses her favorite toy, the child sinks into the abyss of grief. In her conception, the mother becomes the source of her grief for a very short time. For the love of children, “when you are close to a loved one, everything is to my liking,” then the state is characterized. That is, the happiness that love gives is conditional. The presence of the object of love and is complete consent to your wishes.
Moreover, in adolescence, we experience spiritual love. He’s cut out on a cover of romance. Our chosen one seems to us to be the best. Moreover, even if He knows our feelings, it is not important to respond to us in return. This kind of love apotheosis is the feeling towards famous artists, actors.
The next level is sexual love. When the object of love is also attractive on the physical plane, this aspect of love becomes particularly significant. A person usually goes to this stage in early youth, and families are often formed at this time.
More mature love is formed. When we accept our partner as he is with all its errors and problems. It is unconditional love, which has no fear of crisis, no internal or external turmoil in life. Of course, people who love each other will always support each other; always support, and resources for each other will be a source of inspiration.
This is due to the period of age, but often this or that stage of love remains incomplete for some reason, or a person suddenly becomes “rolling” in the first stage of love in childhood. And then there are the great difficulties in family life.
Let’s talk about love as a relationship between two loving people. This love also goes to the stage of its development. At first, it was a bright love, a hola rou of romance, almost the same experience, the feature of adolescent platonic love. During this period, the subject of love was taken as the embodiment of an ideal. At this stage, the partners are happy to complement each other, showing their personality traits better in every possible way.
But the candy-tossing time goes with the maturity of the relationship. The excitement of the romance subsides, and the partner appears in his daily form. The Slipper-Kitchen replaces the candy-bouquet period. And at this point, each of the partners shows their degree of personal and psycho-sexual maturity. Someone can make love in the “adult way,” and someone becomes a funny child, always claiming and complaining that the partner has cheated on his expectations.
According to statistics, more than 50% of divorces occur in the first five years. Why is this happening? Precisely because people don’t know how to love “properly.” A crisis of love, which is completely natural for developing a relationship, is experienced with a lot of loss or not at all – partners wander. Nevertheless, no matter how violent the emotion or how tender the affection between the partners at the beginning of the journey, the situation will still change. This does not mean that love is gone. On the contrary, love grows, grows, takes another form.
It is not so much “essential” for a man and a woman to regularly hold hands and look into each other’s eyes, which is an early feature of love. They have a huge common life where they are together, but each has their own world – friends, work, hobbies. They do not suffer in isolation; since their connection never disappears, it is present at a different, more subtle level. They feel each other, support each other at a distance. And each of them must accept the other.
Unfortunately, very few couples can boast of such a relationship. Changes in the developmental stage of love often lead to complete surprise for both partners or one of them. The desire to realize their boundaries, their inner world is taken as isolation. A person feels the need to get away from his loved one and immerse himself in his own worries and issues, which are dear and important to him. He can take it himself to cool his relationship. Unaware of what is happening to her, she may search for a new relationship that will surely become “new,” much clearer and more enthusiastic than the old, already established, mature relationship at the same candy-bouquet stage. And what can we say about a partner who suddenly does not see in the eyes of his beloved man the former sensual fire 24 hours! Of course, She thinks she’s just tired of him! The rebuke, the claim, the endless explanation of the relationship begins… or the thesis that “he must leave me first before he can leave me!” Meanwhile, with very rare exceptions, the union must be preserved and preserved in any case.
Proper work with both partners, even with one of them, alone cannot resolve all conflict situations. It offers great potential for the spiritual, personal growth of each spouse. In this kind of family, every husband/wife always has a place of happiness, joy, success. In this national family, beautiful children are born and grow up, are talented and happy. And here, the incredible “they lived happily ever after” became a reality. The endless explanation of the relationship begins… or the thesis that “he must leave first before he can leave me!”
Meanwhile, with very rare exceptions, the union must be preserved and preserved in any case. Proper work with both partners, even with one of them, alone cannot resolve all conflict situations. It offers great potential for the spiritual, personal growth of each spouse. In this kind of family, every husband/wife always has a place of happiness, joy, success. In this national family, beautiful children are born and grow up, are talented and happy. And here, the incredible “they lived happily ever after” became a reality. The endless explanation of the relationship begins… or the thesis that “he must leave first before he can leave me!”
Meanwhile, with very rare exceptions, the union must be preserved and preserved in any case. Proper work with both partners, even with one of them, alone cannot resolve all conflict situations. It offers great potential for the spiritual, personal growth of each spouse. In this kind of family, every husband/wife always has a place of happiness, joy, success. In this national family, beautiful children are born and grow up, are talented and happy. And here, the incredible “they lived happily ever after” became a reality. The union must be saved and must be saved. Proper work with both partners, even with one of them, alone cannot resolve all conflict situations. It offers great potential for the spiritual, personal growth of each spouse. In this kind of family, every husband/wife always has a place of happiness, joy, success. In this national family, beautiful children are born and grow up, are talented and happy. And here, the incredible “they lived happily ever after” became a reality. The union must be saved and must be saved. Proper work with both partners, even with one of them, alone cannot resolve all conflict situations. It offers great potential for the spiritual, personal growth of each spouse. In this kind of family, every husband/wife always has a place of happiness, joy, success. In this national family, beautiful children are born and grow up, are talented and happy. And here, the incredible “they lived happily ever after” became a reality. There is room for success. In this national family, beautiful children are born and grow up, are talented and happy. And here, the incredible “they lived happily ever after” became a reality. There is room for success. In this national family, beautiful children are born and grow up, are talented and happy. And here, the incredible “they lived happily ever after” became a reality.
Could it be that the relationship cannot be restored through the fault of a partner? Could it be that divorce is really the best way? It happens but rarely. Only if the marriage is ended by counting, if the partners have feelings, they can’t be random people for each other. And this feeling, if it loses its strength or acquires unwanted forms, we can always revive it and lead it in the right direction. Even if the partner explicitly refuses to develop. It is, as a rule, involved in alcoholism, drug addiction, and other forms of intoxication.
In most cases, you can deal with it. All of these illnesses are just the tip of the iceberg. And at its root is a huge pile of old unresolved issues, children, teenagers, young people, and trauma.
The good news is that all of this is correctable. Even if only one of the partners plays the role of union savior, success is most likely. Although the concerted and enthusiastic work of both spouses certainly delivers results more quickly.