Turn the Pain of Separation into Strength
You have to be your own partner to fulfill your dreams
This man, who has dropped out of college three times, has seen many chapters of his life up close. Seeing the two sides of the coin has become realistic. For the first time in 2010, he dropped out of a private college on IILM Lodhi Road. Then he came out of Khalsa in 2011. In 2013, he dropped out for the third time from the Shaheed Sukhdev College of Business Studies at the University of Delhi. On the drop-out, Onkar said:
“The reason for my drop out from the first two colleges is that the college was not conducive to fulfilling my dream. The college could not answer my questions about my own ideas. As a result, I dropped out of college and started training in the stock market, taking care of the family business as well. I started working with a non-profit organization called Make-A-Wish and it was through this work, I was introduced there to an 8-year-old girl who was suffering from blood cancer. The girl’s name was Radhika. After six months, the girl needed medicine for chemotherapy worth 1954$. His mother has been to the door of many non-profit organizations. Still, none of those who took to the field literally had that much money, or the organizations themselves were in financial trouble. When I spoke to him about this, I was quite surprised because at that time, my income was enough to work in the stock market. But I also knew that just being able to pay would not be the best solution. Radhika was not alone in this situation. Many others like her are facing exactly the same situation.”
The story of the beginning
Leaving the family business, he began to work on the issues that hindered his development. His realization was that money was not the main problem, but lack of skills was the main problem, especially lack of communication skills. He sees creativity as the passion of his life. Then the question arises in his mind, to make an impact on society through money and to make money by making an impact, which of the two should be chosen?
His goal was to build a team of veterans so that the lack of communication skills would not be a hindrance to the development of any business. In this way, just as it will be possible to earn money for oneself, the impact on the society will be far-reaching.
Onkar began to apply for funding in various places to implement his ideas. The only fear, however, was that he was not a graduate. So this time, he has to go to war to do well in his studies. He was able to stay at Shaheed Sukhdev College of Business Studies for only six months. During these six months, he participated in several business competitions in Delhi and won about 650$.
On February 14, 2013, he and several of his good friends started their organization. They started working through a campaign called ‘One packet per view’ and first got clients from reputed organizations like Rotary International, National Association for the Blind and DLF.. Still, again, luck was not on his side, as only four months later, two of his friends left the business with the decision to pursue an MBA. Despite his numerous requests, he did not find his friends by his side and as a result, he had to leave the college again, as it was not possible for him to continue his business and college education together.
Love, love, separation and life
In a Ted talk held at Ramanujan College, Onkar said something extraordinary in his speech. Your thoughts about life, love, love, grief are the source of inspiration with these things. At the beginning of his remark about love and separation, he said:
“For the sake of Bollywood, we are all accustomed to watching reunion movies. The protagonist and the heroine will meet one way or the other. They will look at each other with unblinking eyes. There will be love between them and after solving some problems, the film’s main point will be that they started living happily and peacefully. Everyone talks about reunion, love or affection. That means we always want the final form of a relationship or the end of an ideal story to be sweet. But is marriage the only possible outcome of a relationship? Why doesn’t anyone say that the story is not happy until the end? If the end is difficult, then how would the whole thing be? What else is waiting in life after separation? Immeasurable possibilities or drowning in despair?”
He also sheds light on the powerful role of love and separation. The end of the words that started with a wonderful story was fascinating. He said:
“A thousand years ago, the man had divine power. At some point, people start abusing this unimaginable power. Then the Creator decided that this extra power must be hidden somewhere. His first adviser told him, “If you bury it in the ground, people will not find it.” According to the second advisor, it would be better to leave it underwater. The third adviser’s advice was to leave it at the top of the hill. However, God did not like the advice of any of them. And so he decided that the human heart itself would be the secret address of this power. And since then people have been searching day and night for this lost energy. This divine power, which is hidden within man himself, requires love or separation in order to possess it.”
The mantra to turn grief into strength
“Love makes people brave. Every mother in the world cooks for her child with the same passion, the same passion she can’t feel for anyone else. The same firm attitude that a lover can swear to bring the moon in the hands of a lover in a strong voice is not possible in the case of anyone else. Human nature is such that he likes to share the love that is hidden inside him, among the loved ones.
Among the Greeks, Meraki, there is a saying that means to do something with a full heart. In the same way, the pain of separation can motivate people to move forward. Separation does not just mean separation. Separation means finding yourself at the edge of a ditch, from which it is possible to fly to the horizon and roll down. You have to decide for yourself how to look at life.
A poem by a poet is not just a phrase. He nurtured his suffering like a child after countless painful nights. Poetry is the creation of the suffering poet to endure suffering. A singer’s song is never just a voice. Only after a lot of separation can cause one sing by unleashing all one’s inner feelings. The Taj Mahal, built-in memory of his wife Mumtaz Mahal, came from the hardships of Emperor Shah Jahan. All the best artists in the world have come to today’s position because of hardship. Amy Winehouse, Shakespeare or Adele – they show off their troubles whatever they say. Money itself, glory is never something to be shown. Trouble is their strength, through which they get inspiration.
Any father, guru, husband can never change your own world. After separation, one has to feel the spiritual power within oneself, through which one can change oneself and one’s surroundings at the same time. The time after separation is the time when only you can be by your side. Once in a lifetime, a person who has been able to give himself courage by being present by his side needs nothing more. You may be the busiest person in the community, but loneliness will not surround you at the end of the day. Even after working one day at a time, you will find a place for yourself in your mind, from which it will be echoed from time to time that you are happy!”,
Onkar Kishan Khullar says that the mantra of how to tell people how to go further in life is the pain of separation or loss of a loved one (not saying love, cheating or death).