What should life be like? 

People are heard to say at some point in life; all my hopes are gone; I have no more dreams! But, does anyone’s hope ever really end? Ever run out of dreams? So, what are dreams and hopes? We see in our sleep a dream, and what we want to do in life is called real dreams and hope.

That is, people dream and sleep and hope from waking. When you wake up, the dream ends, and the hope is death. Hope is the name of wanting to achieve from ourselves, and when we want to achieve from others, it is called expectation.

Is the hope of human life ever ending? No, it doesn’t end there. Life without hope is like a desert. On the contrary, if hope is not fulfilled for some reason, we may break down for a while and suffer from depression if it is not fulfilled. Overcome frustration but don’t give up hope. We start having another dream again. More hope began to awaken in our minds.

People cannot live without dreams, without hope. Crazy people also have dreams but random. The dream of an average healthy person is to be organized. We all have so many dreams in our lives, and There is a lot of hope in the mind. Unfortunately, not all dreams come true. Then we get upset.

People with weak minds may think in their minds- ‘I will never dream again. I will not hope anymore ‘. Dreaming may be reduced. But it does not end there. Dreaming is not the end. Does hope ever end?

The man who was devastated also thinks that he has no hope. The truth is – a little hope in any corner of the mind to reach the desired dream. There is a glimmer of hope in the eyes of a man who is dying of a severe illness and whose life is almost over, maybe a month.

Why not hope for the end? Because people love life. He who grows flowers or vegetables loves it. He cares for the flowers in the garden because he loves them, hoping that his garden will be filled with the smiles of the flowers. If you want to make a dream come true, you have to fulfill the dream. You have to have coordination with your qualifications, abilities, and surroundings, etc. I certainly wouldn’t expect this to go to the moon or become a famous writer like JK Rowling. It’s unrealistic.

Medium-level expectations are easy to meet. Ambition is the cause of frustration. The pain of losing hope is borne. So it is better to dream according to the qualifications of the person. Qualification requires strong morale, effort, and hard work. There are many successful people globally; many examples of people who have touched the sky from the ground.

I’m not talking about them here. I don’t know to analyze them. I’m talking about the average person. The most important thing for people like me who lack courage is Love. I love the dream.

It means Love for yourself. If you can love yourself, you can be careful to fulfill your expectations. If you don’t know yourself, you can’t love yourself. Reaching your dream is not accessible if you can’t love yourself.

Those who are successful have loved themselves before. This does not mean being self-centered. Not to be selfish. The age at which we can recognize ourselves, whether it is 35 or 40 years.

If we can understand what will happen to me, we should start welding and verifying ourselves. I can’t stop. I will stop but to take fresh air. We will continue to do what we can. In the eyes of others, it should be done no matter how small the task.

We have to aim to fulfill our dreams so that we harm no one. People around me won’t encourage you or me. How effective it is to motivate yourself! Motivate yourself, love yourself, be self-sufficient. Hope can be reached; dreams can be reached inshaAllah. Whoever tries in the best way, Allah Ta’ala helps him to succeed.

Another important thing is to hope for yourself, not for others. What we expect from others is expected. The higher the expectation, the more likely we are to suffer. Expectations are less complicated in all areas of life. The same is true of family life, career, etc.  

That is why it is said, “Life without hope is like heaven.” That’s not to say we shouldn’t expect our loved ones at all. The mind, ability, time of the beloved person next to you should be expected. “I have no expectations now. I’m so good. I was unhappy when there were so many expectations.”

Expectation and Love are inextricably linked. The meaning of the word Love is comprehensive. There are hundreds of definitions of this. I will not go to Osby because there is no definition of Love in my head. Where there is Love, there is expectation. And where expectations are made where there is Love. There are many types of Love. Love for trees, Love for animals, Love for people, there are hundreds of other loves.

The Love that comes from Love is emotional. It is because of this Love that two people get married and become one. They seem to love each other very much. At one point, that intense Love faded. Is lost. Why is Love lost?

Love has faith, respect, honor, trust, cooperation, sympathy, feeling. Love never loses. Love is suppressed when the dust falls over time. In mind, in the heart, there is Love.

If it were lost, there would not be so many love stories around. Those who say Love is over, lost, could not love. They did not find Love. We say that there was no love between husband and wife, between siblings, between relationships once upon a time. But we do not realize. 

When does it stay or seems to end?

As expectations grow, so do greed, selfishness, and self-centeredness. Doubt and disbelief seem to come when expectations are not met. And it is not wise at all to allow this suspicion to grow.

Should continue to believe. No one is ever deceived into believing. I think I’m cheating. But there must be a realization of a time partner. One should not distrust anyone without verification. Doubt will catch the cracks about where it will come from. So suspicion should be dispelled in any way.

So always think positively. Positive thinking makes life easier. Life is not complicated. Trust your loved ones. Doubt and disbelief make us forget our responsibilities to each other.

And another important thing is to give time. It is essential to give time to the trees just as the trees survive if they are watered. But, unfortunately, we may not be able to give time to our loved ones in that way due to work pressure in the workplace, responsibility towards relatives, developing relationships with friends.

Dissatisfaction comes to our minds only when we cannot maintain these properly. I think there is no love anymore. But it is also important to remember the inadequacies of others if you can make hopes big. If you can make expectations small or zero, if you can hold each other’s responsibilities, then Love will flow in any relationship.

In any relationship, be it husband-wife or anyone else. Exceptional quality has been seen before one’s fault. Finding the quality of the man next door is a good feature. The most important thing is not to complain against others, look for a bit of Love, be content with a little, be grateful, be thankful, be patient, and most importantly, be able to forgive.

If all this can be brought to life, then the relationship will always be beautiful. There will be Love. Maybe not at the same pace, but Love will not run out from life and relationships.

And emotional Love must suffer, more or less. As one witty writer put it, “Love is like cigarette smoke. The result is burning ashes. I can see the smoke, but I can’t see the flames.”

What does it mean that the fruit of Love is zero? 

Nah, of course not. How many love stories are there, but they are false? There is Love in the world, and there will be. Dreams, hopes, expectations will all be in life. These are human characteristics. It is essential to use our knowledge, judgment, conscience, intellect in the right place at the right time and in the right environment.